In this episode of “The Philosopher’s Zone,” the host explores how philosophy can help us find meaning and reward in the face of hardships and losses. The discussion is based on Keiran Setiap’s book, “Life Is Hard,” which combines personal experience with a wide-ranging sweep of philosophy to explore the question of living well in tough times.
Living well is not about striving for an unattainable ideal, but rather embracing a good enough life. American culture’s emphasis on positive thinking and achievement, along with social media’s constant self-curation, may contribute to the current trend of modest ambitions for the good life. The pursuit of one’s best life can be demoralizing and counterproductive. Instead, finding contentment and meaning in a good enough life is key.
Difficulties are an inevitable part of life, and everyone faces challenges that make it hard to live a satisfying life. However, the goal is not just happiness, but the ability to live well despite these challenges. Chronic pain, for example, can lead to reflections on how to find meaning and satisfaction in life even under unavoidable hardship.
Philosophy can be a valuable tool for grappling with the difficulties of life and finding meaning and satisfaction. It emphasizes the importance of meaningful engagement with the world and other people. Rather than solely pursuing happiness, philosophy encourages living a good enough life, which ultimately leads to happiness as a byproduct.
The ancient stoics had a different approach to philosophy compared to modern stoics. Stoicism offers optimism about how we can cope with adversity, emphasizing real engagement with the world. This means caring about things that we can’t control, which can be challenging but ultimately leads to a more fulfilling life.
Our perception of failure is often limited by our tendency to think of our lives as a linear narrative. The book “Meander Spiral Explode” explores alternative narrative structures beyond the linear hero’s journey, challenging the cultural ideals of achievement that impose destructive narratives. By valuing the process and atylic activities, such as talking about philosophy or going for a walk, we can live in the present and appreciate the ongoing value of our actions.
Regret is an unavoidable side effect of having a wide range of interests and recognizing the multitude of possibilities in the world. The hollowness of a project-driven life can lead to midlife crisis, which is not exclusive to midlife and can be characterized by regret and the overwhelming focus on what needs to be done. Finding value in the ongoing process of our actions and embracing atylic activities can help combat these challenges.
Diogenes the cynic and Aristotle offer valuable strategies for dealing with the hardships of life. Diogenes believed in finding balance and moderation in life, living a simple life, and rejecting societal norms. Aristotle emphasized the importance of cultivating virtues and friendships, finding balance and moderation, and living a meaningful life. Their philosophies provide different perspectives on how to navigate life’s challenges.
Iris Murdoch’s work, particularly her book “The Sovereignty of Good,” explores the centrality of love to ethics, attention, and the relationship between art and morality. Her vision of philosophy offers genuine solace and emotional uplift, making her work a recommended read for those seeking philosophical guidance.
For further exploration of how philosophy can help us find our way in tough times, Keiran Setiap’s “Life is Hard” is highly recommended. Additionally, Jane Allison’s “Meander Spiral Explode” offers a fresh perspective on narrative beyond the linear hero’s journey and is worth reading for those interested in rethinking failure and storytelling.
Life is hard, and we all face challenges that make it difficult to live a satisfying life. However, philosophy can provide valuable insights and strategies to help us navigate these hardships and find meaning and satisfaction. By embracing a good enough life, rethinking failure and narrative, and drawing inspiration from ancient and contemporary philosophers, we can cultivate resilience and live well despite the challenges we encounter.